Despite the bad economy, and abounding financial troubles, it looks like commercialism and materialism are more powerful than ever this holiday season. Lots of businesses are opening earlier than usual for their Black Friday sales, plenty of them opening while it is still Thanksgiving! If you're a married man who has family obligations for the holidays, this probably drives you crazy. I have never met a man who really enjoyed things like Black Friday. Most guys would rather sit back at home and watch football.
If you're a single man though, you get a free pass on it. With no wife or girlfriend to shop for - who will probably be very materialistic anyway - and no other family to have holidays obligations for, you get a free pass. And that's a great thing. You can stay home and watch football, or stay in and watch the hilarity ensue on television once the shoppers are set free insides the stores. You can just sleep through it. (Highly recommended!)
If you're a single guy who finds the crass, brutish commercialism of the holidays, and the hollow materialism in general in society to be disgusting and revolting, then you have it made because you have no one else to nudge you into partaking of it! You can choose one way or the other. (I'm guessing most of you don't want to take part...) Freedom is your best Christmas present at this point. You've saved time and money, not to mention the stress that would result from being in that disaster called Black Friday.
And for Thanksgiving and Christmas, you get to relax, enjoy family and great food, but get to skip out on the stress. And if you feel a strong aversion to the materialism so apparent during the holidays, you can act in line with your values by avoiding it, and do something for yourself, your family, or someone less fortunate than you.
So for Thanksgiving, if you're a single man, you indeed have something extra to be thankful for!
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
3 Ways to Guard Yourself from Misandry
If you are an American male in your 20s (or even teens or 30s) then this is for you. Chances are, you know something isn't right with society. Perhaps you notice overt and subtle indicators that society is against men. You see sitcoms depict husbands as stupid and brutish. You notice how absurdly difficult and fruitless the dating scene is. And you probably have some male friends and family members who have been dragged through the hell of divorce court.
And if you are reading this, you are probably astute and aware of misandry, and you are determined not to fall into the same traps and make the same mistakes that ruin many men. The cost of making these mistakes is high, and they can ruin your life - forever! Here I will present three ways you can guard yourself from misandry in society while building yourself up and living a decent life.
1. DO NOT GO INTO DEBT! This is useful advice in general, but for a man, it is essential. Men are not valued in the workplace, or in academia. The economy has thrown you overboard a long time ago. It doesn't need you nowadays, except as a debt slave. The main way that most young people go into debt is by taking out loans to go to college. And when they graduate, they have racked up large debt and can find no decent jobs so that they can pay off these debts. This is, in practice, very much like slavery. If you are indebted with student loans, your options for removing the debt are either, a)Pay them off, or b)Die. That's it. And with the economy worsening each moment, don't expect your degree to reward you with a decent job. Tons of people go to college. This decreases the value of each degree. And good jobs (and jobs at all) are scarce. So it's a trap you must avoid. If you must go to college, you should a)Have someone else foot the bill (scholarship, grant, saving up money to go) and b)Get a harder degree that's more useful. Don't go major in History or English - such a degree is worthless for getting a decent job. (But DO educate yourself in such things. An education is valuable - schooling is overpriced or worthless.) But regardless of what you do in regards to your education, DO NOT GO INTO DEBT!
2. BECOME SELF SUFFICIENT! Again, something that is useful in general. But in the present age, especially useful for a man. Because outside of your family and a few good friends, if you are fortunate, you can't expect outside help. Women get all the help in the world - shelters, financial assistance, easier to get scholarships and jobs, etc. Mens' hardships and problems don't matter to society. So it is best to become as self-sufficient as possible! That means you want to educate yourself as much as possible in any useful thing you come across and need. Learn how to fix things, grow food, solve problems, survive. Collect books with the knowledge you need. If you followed the first thing, being debt free, then you should be at much greater liberty to work on becoming self-sufficient. Although you need to be self-sufficient, you also need to have good people in your life. Family and friends are wonderful things. But you need to rely on yourself as much as possible.
3. DO NOT GET MARRIED IN THE WEST! And now for something more specific. Western society has taken the original concept of marriage - what some call "Marriage 1.0" and turned it into a damning hell for men. If you live in the U.S., or any other Western nation, avoid marriage at all costs. A man has almost nothing to gain from it, and literally everything to lose - his money, assets, resources, home, job, health, peace, and of course, his children. Here in the U.S., divorce is rampant, adultery is ubiquitous, custody of children almost always goes to the mother, the father is typically alienated from his children, child support is forced, there is alimony for the wife, and the ex-wife can typically take half or more of the man's assets, and will usually get the house. Marriage in the West is nothing but a mockery, and a hell for men. As I mentioned before, you probably know men who have been raped by the divorce and family courts. It is certainly something you should avoid. The pain is not worth the potential pleasure (which will likely be short lived anyway.)
And if you are reading this, you are probably astute and aware of misandry, and you are determined not to fall into the same traps and make the same mistakes that ruin many men. The cost of making these mistakes is high, and they can ruin your life - forever! Here I will present three ways you can guard yourself from misandry in society while building yourself up and living a decent life.
1. DO NOT GO INTO DEBT! This is useful advice in general, but for a man, it is essential. Men are not valued in the workplace, or in academia. The economy has thrown you overboard a long time ago. It doesn't need you nowadays, except as a debt slave. The main way that most young people go into debt is by taking out loans to go to college. And when they graduate, they have racked up large debt and can find no decent jobs so that they can pay off these debts. This is, in practice, very much like slavery. If you are indebted with student loans, your options for removing the debt are either, a)Pay them off, or b)Die. That's it. And with the economy worsening each moment, don't expect your degree to reward you with a decent job. Tons of people go to college. This decreases the value of each degree. And good jobs (and jobs at all) are scarce. So it's a trap you must avoid. If you must go to college, you should a)Have someone else foot the bill (scholarship, grant, saving up money to go) and b)Get a harder degree that's more useful. Don't go major in History or English - such a degree is worthless for getting a decent job. (But DO educate yourself in such things. An education is valuable - schooling is overpriced or worthless.) But regardless of what you do in regards to your education, DO NOT GO INTO DEBT!
2. BECOME SELF SUFFICIENT! Again, something that is useful in general. But in the present age, especially useful for a man. Because outside of your family and a few good friends, if you are fortunate, you can't expect outside help. Women get all the help in the world - shelters, financial assistance, easier to get scholarships and jobs, etc. Mens' hardships and problems don't matter to society. So it is best to become as self-sufficient as possible! That means you want to educate yourself as much as possible in any useful thing you come across and need. Learn how to fix things, grow food, solve problems, survive. Collect books with the knowledge you need. If you followed the first thing, being debt free, then you should be at much greater liberty to work on becoming self-sufficient. Although you need to be self-sufficient, you also need to have good people in your life. Family and friends are wonderful things. But you need to rely on yourself as much as possible.
3. DO NOT GET MARRIED IN THE WEST! And now for something more specific. Western society has taken the original concept of marriage - what some call "Marriage 1.0" and turned it into a damning hell for men. If you live in the U.S., or any other Western nation, avoid marriage at all costs. A man has almost nothing to gain from it, and literally everything to lose - his money, assets, resources, home, job, health, peace, and of course, his children. Here in the U.S., divorce is rampant, adultery is ubiquitous, custody of children almost always goes to the mother, the father is typically alienated from his children, child support is forced, there is alimony for the wife, and the ex-wife can typically take half or more of the man's assets, and will usually get the house. Marriage in the West is nothing but a mockery, and a hell for men. As I mentioned before, you probably know men who have been raped by the divorce and family courts. It is certainly something you should avoid. The pain is not worth the potential pleasure (which will likely be short lived anyway.)
Friday, November 11, 2011
Is Unemployment a Form of Misandry?
Times are indeed tough, and for men with hopes and dream, even more so.
To me, the first, most obvious of ways society has stunted a man's ability to develop is the unemployment rate. Perhaps it is not targeting men directly, but giving young men little or no way to begin a career and work himself up the ladder is socially risky. Men need an aim in life. Goals. Dreams. For most, a satisfying career is one of the most essential things in a man's life. This isn't to say that there are not other ways to build up one's life, but for most, it is a first step, and essential.
One complaint you hear nowadays is that men aren't getting jobs and are sitting around playing video games all day living at home. (Notice how, when you hear such a complaint, it is the men who are blamed - a good example of misandry.) Now, there ARE guys who decide to sit around being lazy bums who have no greater desire that to just sit around all day, every day. However! I submit to you that this is not true for most young men. I think most desire to start a career and build a life, and yet are unable to do so.
So many guys are searching for meaning, looking for a job, just trying to start somewhere.....but they cannot start! And even when they fail due to something out of their control, they get blamed for it most times. I am a good example of this. Last year, I had graduated from college, and began applying for jobs right away. A month passed with no calls or emails from potential employers. I stepped it up. I began sending emails and making calls instead of just sending in applications. Typically, I was either told no when I asked for interviews, or told they would call me if they wanted to interview me.
I think you can see where this is going.
This persisted for months. At the worst point, I had applied for at least 300 jobs, had 7 unsuccessful interviews. (A little over a 2% success rate.....only for getting interviews! Wow!) This was after 8 months of job searching. By this point, I was in the midst of the deepest depression of my life. I could see no way out, and could see no future. I had internalized that it was my fault. It was my failure completely. And apparently even applying for hundreds of jobs meant I was a bum even if no one gave me an offer. Not to mention that the American Dream itself was as far away as it could possibly be. I think had things continued like this too much longer, I may have started to entertain thoughts of suicide. And no doubt that many young men have, all because of the apparent inability to get life started.
(Fortunately, I found a job after 8 months, and life has improved a lot for me, and I am trying to draw closer to accomplishing my dreams.)
And what was I doing when not job searching? Playing video games. And of course I lived at home. I would often go apply for jobs online, send some emails, or make a call or two, go to a job fair if there was one somewhere close. And then go play Call of Duty. I could at least live vicariously through fictional characters in those games.
Last year's experience still leaves me with a little bitterness when I think of it. And I hope to never be in such a situation again. But for many young men, this situation is ongoing. And there's no end in sight. A few have escaped perhaps. Perhaps a decent career begins, and they can run with it. Many more of us have not escaped the nightmare entirely: many men are underemployed, and will likely never get ahead. (I include myself here.)
The unemployment rate COULD be fixed. The tragedy is that it won't be. When a society throws young men by the wayside and offers them no hope of building a life and advancing, it harms itself. I will even go so far to say that it dooms itself. I think it is safe to assume that if you are reading this, you probably agree that misandry is rampant in society. Men are essentially the hardest hit when unemployment and economic turmoil comes.
(After all, who has to save up money to start a family? To buy a home? To become stable and prosper? To live the American dream?)
Is unemployment a form of misandry? Is it in any way linked to misandry, even if not directly or overtly?
Post a comment and tell us your thoughts!
To me, the first, most obvious of ways society has stunted a man's ability to develop is the unemployment rate. Perhaps it is not targeting men directly, but giving young men little or no way to begin a career and work himself up the ladder is socially risky. Men need an aim in life. Goals. Dreams. For most, a satisfying career is one of the most essential things in a man's life. This isn't to say that there are not other ways to build up one's life, but for most, it is a first step, and essential.
One complaint you hear nowadays is that men aren't getting jobs and are sitting around playing video games all day living at home. (Notice how, when you hear such a complaint, it is the men who are blamed - a good example of misandry.) Now, there ARE guys who decide to sit around being lazy bums who have no greater desire that to just sit around all day, every day. However! I submit to you that this is not true for most young men. I think most desire to start a career and build a life, and yet are unable to do so.
So many guys are searching for meaning, looking for a job, just trying to start somewhere.....but they cannot start! And even when they fail due to something out of their control, they get blamed for it most times. I am a good example of this. Last year, I had graduated from college, and began applying for jobs right away. A month passed with no calls or emails from potential employers. I stepped it up. I began sending emails and making calls instead of just sending in applications. Typically, I was either told no when I asked for interviews, or told they would call me if they wanted to interview me.
I think you can see where this is going.
This persisted for months. At the worst point, I had applied for at least 300 jobs, had 7 unsuccessful interviews. (A little over a 2% success rate.....only for getting interviews! Wow!) This was after 8 months of job searching. By this point, I was in the midst of the deepest depression of my life. I could see no way out, and could see no future. I had internalized that it was my fault. It was my failure completely. And apparently even applying for hundreds of jobs meant I was a bum even if no one gave me an offer. Not to mention that the American Dream itself was as far away as it could possibly be. I think had things continued like this too much longer, I may have started to entertain thoughts of suicide. And no doubt that many young men have, all because of the apparent inability to get life started.
(Fortunately, I found a job after 8 months, and life has improved a lot for me, and I am trying to draw closer to accomplishing my dreams.)
And what was I doing when not job searching? Playing video games. And of course I lived at home. I would often go apply for jobs online, send some emails, or make a call or two, go to a job fair if there was one somewhere close. And then go play Call of Duty. I could at least live vicariously through fictional characters in those games.
Last year's experience still leaves me with a little bitterness when I think of it. And I hope to never be in such a situation again. But for many young men, this situation is ongoing. And there's no end in sight. A few have escaped perhaps. Perhaps a decent career begins, and they can run with it. Many more of us have not escaped the nightmare entirely: many men are underemployed, and will likely never get ahead. (I include myself here.)
The unemployment rate COULD be fixed. The tragedy is that it won't be. When a society throws young men by the wayside and offers them no hope of building a life and advancing, it harms itself. I will even go so far to say that it dooms itself. I think it is safe to assume that if you are reading this, you probably agree that misandry is rampant in society. Men are essentially the hardest hit when unemployment and economic turmoil comes.
(After all, who has to save up money to start a family? To buy a home? To become stable and prosper? To live the American dream?)
Is unemployment a form of misandry? Is it in any way linked to misandry, even if not directly or overtly?
Post a comment and tell us your thoughts!
Monday, November 7, 2011
Why Misandry?
Why focus on misandry? It probably looks to many as a superfluous social issue. But I assure you it is anything but that. And it is essentially important to Western civilization. Why?
First think of who created the tools of civilization:
Who built houses, palaces, public buildings? Men.
Who created roads and bridges? Men.
Who wrote books so that traditions could be preserved and knowledge could be passed down? Men.
Who tilled the fields so that populations could eat? Men.
Who created the tools and inventions needed to progress with technology? Men.
I hope you are seeing a pattern here. And before anyone sends me hate mail, consider that I am not saying that women are useless or even that women are incapable of doing any of these things. But historically, and even in our present feminist and misandrist age, men are still doing the much larger part of the labor. So whether we speak of ancient history or the present day, it isn't a case of "women being held back by patriarchy" or "gender roles being enforced." There are some innate differences between men and women, and History speaks to this.
Simply put: the work and creations of man that create and sustain civilization. The whole reason humanity has civilization in the first place had to with the fact that men had to be goaded into producing more than just what they alone needed to get by day to day. How did this happen? Imagine a time, many thousands of years before civilization begun. Our ancestors had already come down from the trees, but they were still more like our other hominid cousins than like modern humans. Men hunted for what they needed. Women could gather fruit, nuts, roots, and all the edible plants around. If they weren't pregnant, they could hunt small, non-lethal game.
And this is how it was for a very long time. There was a huge excess of leisure time because once you got what you needed (and helped get what your tribe needed) you were done for the day.
Consider the relationships and family aspect as well: A small unit of human beings living together - a tribe. Everyone knows everyone else and there aren't that many people. And no family structure as civilized people know it today. The tribe is your family. And for being so small, it needed one leader: the alpha. And he called the shots. And took as many women as he pleased. If you weren't the alpha, then your chances of getting to reproduce were fairly poor. You either kissed his ass for a little access to women, or you had to secretly seduce the alpha's women. So men had no reason to produce anything other than what they and the tribe needed just to maintain existence. And why would they produce more? No purpose in doing so.
But somewhere down the line, probably around 6,000-10,000 years ago, civilization exploded onto the planet. As if out of nowhere (on a scale of human history and prehistory) there were now buildings, roads, bridges, written language.....men were now producing great things, and fairly quickly also.
I'm not going to pin this down to one reason and one reason alone. But I do want to discuss one major reason this happened.
Another major thing created was not tangible, but was an idea: the idea of family structure. Almost every man could have one woman - for life - and she would bear only his children and be faithful to him. Likewise, the man became a producer, creating more than what he needed for the day. He was to take care as best he was able the wife and children of his. It was a social and economic wonder! Now he had a reason to produce more than what he needed for the day. He now had a stake in the future! Give a man reproduction, and he will give you his production.
And this idea of family structure was a crucial part of every successful, high power civilization that I am aware of.
Therefore misandry is much more than a simple social issue. It is a matter of life and death for civilizations. Punish the ones (men) who produced the good in society, and you will at some point see your society splinter apart if things do not change.
[Note: This is only a partial logical explanation of how civilization began. It is not intended to be all-inclusive or a simple explanation meant to be the only explanation. Indeed, the are many other factors of civilization that I did not discuss in order to focus on this one monumental aspect.]
First think of who created the tools of civilization:
Who built houses, palaces, public buildings? Men.
Who created roads and bridges? Men.
Who wrote books so that traditions could be preserved and knowledge could be passed down? Men.
Who tilled the fields so that populations could eat? Men.
Who created the tools and inventions needed to progress with technology? Men.
I hope you are seeing a pattern here. And before anyone sends me hate mail, consider that I am not saying that women are useless or even that women are incapable of doing any of these things. But historically, and even in our present feminist and misandrist age, men are still doing the much larger part of the labor. So whether we speak of ancient history or the present day, it isn't a case of "women being held back by patriarchy" or "gender roles being enforced." There are some innate differences between men and women, and History speaks to this.
Simply put: the work and creations of man that create and sustain civilization. The whole reason humanity has civilization in the first place had to with the fact that men had to be goaded into producing more than just what they alone needed to get by day to day. How did this happen? Imagine a time, many thousands of years before civilization begun. Our ancestors had already come down from the trees, but they were still more like our other hominid cousins than like modern humans. Men hunted for what they needed. Women could gather fruit, nuts, roots, and all the edible plants around. If they weren't pregnant, they could hunt small, non-lethal game.
And this is how it was for a very long time. There was a huge excess of leisure time because once you got what you needed (and helped get what your tribe needed) you were done for the day.
Consider the relationships and family aspect as well: A small unit of human beings living together - a tribe. Everyone knows everyone else and there aren't that many people. And no family structure as civilized people know it today. The tribe is your family. And for being so small, it needed one leader: the alpha. And he called the shots. And took as many women as he pleased. If you weren't the alpha, then your chances of getting to reproduce were fairly poor. You either kissed his ass for a little access to women, or you had to secretly seduce the alpha's women. So men had no reason to produce anything other than what they and the tribe needed just to maintain existence. And why would they produce more? No purpose in doing so.
But somewhere down the line, probably around 6,000-10,000 years ago, civilization exploded onto the planet. As if out of nowhere (on a scale of human history and prehistory) there were now buildings, roads, bridges, written language.....men were now producing great things, and fairly quickly also.
I'm not going to pin this down to one reason and one reason alone. But I do want to discuss one major reason this happened.
Another major thing created was not tangible, but was an idea: the idea of family structure. Almost every man could have one woman - for life - and she would bear only his children and be faithful to him. Likewise, the man became a producer, creating more than what he needed for the day. He was to take care as best he was able the wife and children of his. It was a social and economic wonder! Now he had a reason to produce more than what he needed for the day. He now had a stake in the future! Give a man reproduction, and he will give you his production.
And this idea of family structure was a crucial part of every successful, high power civilization that I am aware of.
Therefore misandry is much more than a simple social issue. It is a matter of life and death for civilizations. Punish the ones (men) who produced the good in society, and you will at some point see your society splinter apart if things do not change.
[Note: This is only a partial logical explanation of how civilization began. It is not intended to be all-inclusive or a simple explanation meant to be the only explanation. Indeed, the are many other factors of civilization that I did not discuss in order to focus on this one monumental aspect.]
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